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I think if we are all honest with ourselves, there is a lot of noise going on in and around us at all times. Whether it is the noise from life issues that we are facing or noise coming from the over stimulations from social media/TV. Wherever the noise is coming from there is certainly a need to turn the volume down in our own lives so that we can just hear ourselves think!

Just recently, I wrote a blog called “The One Thing That I Need the Most” and in that blog I wrote about my need to cease and desist all activities that was neither needful or necessary for 30 days to get refocus on what I really needed to focus on to end this year strong.

I can remember years ago on a TV show called “A Different World” (which was back in the late 80’s to early 90’s) where one of the characters on the show was having a “stress attack” and she did not know what to do about it. So, she went to see a counselor and the words that the counselor shared as an antidote to her problem was…RELAX, RELATE, & RELEASE.

These 3 powerful words/concepts can help turn the volume down in your life.

  • Step #1: RELAX – how many of us truly take the time to just relax from all the hustle and grind of life. Often time, we are so busy trying to get to our “NEXT” thing that we fail to just stop for a moment and and just BE. I have been guilty as charged and made a decision to learn to truly relax and exhale. I think many of us are waiting to exhale, because we have forgotten how to BREATHE. That is why it is so important to just allow yourself time to have time with yourself whereby you do absolutely nothing so you can be PRESENT to enjoy all of the various aspects of your life and not just apart of it.

  • Step #2: RELATE – It is important to take time to relate to those who matters the most to you. Spending time investing in your family and friends as well as in the simply things of life allows you to experience some of life’s greatest treasures on a more regular basis. Life is not always about us. So, I begin to seek to understand others before needing to be understood and it has changed my life! Tapping into what matters in other peoples lives while figuring out how you can help or encourage them on their journey offers a great benefit for both parties. I promise you that your life will be made full because while you are giving to others you are also giving back to yourself.

  • Step #3: RELEASE – Take inventory of yourself and find out what you have been holding on to that you need to let go. Whether it is old hurts, disappointments, people, situations, or circumstances, know that it is time to let it all go! Stop nursing the "would da", "could da", "should da's" and allow yourself to be healed and made whole emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically. Some illnesses are associated with what you’ve been carrying on the inside that should have been let go along time ago. When I decided to let go a friend that abandoned me when my son became ill during a time when I needed her the most, she was not available for me. Believe me, that hurt my heart, but I had to let it go. Remember, that whatever you are holding on to, is holding on to you and it will keep you from ever becoming the vibrant you that you desire to be. It’s time to move on, so whatever it is that you need to release, decide today to do just that and you will experience a freedom that has been awaiting you.

These 3 steps can have a powerful impact in your life and mine if we implement them on a daily basis, not just when we get STRESSED.

You see our lives speaks to us. So what is your's saying to you?

Don't you think it is time to find out?

Now become more of the vibrant you that you've been looking forward to meeting...she's there if you will just RELAX, RELATE, & RELEASE!

How will you relax, relate and release in order to turn the volume down in your life for a more vibrant you?

Please leave a comment below and share your story.

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