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Is F.E.A.R. What's Holding You Back?

There is an all out assault that is holding many of us back from BEING MORE of who we are called to be, DOING MORE of what we were created to DO, or HAVING MORE of not only what we want, but what we really need. That assault comes from what is called F.E.A.R. And if we don't identify it, it will continue to hold us back from the life that awaits us all! What do I mean by F.E.A.R.? F.E.A.R. Is an acronym that stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. What is the False Evidence that is Appearing Real in your life?

Some years ago, I was working with a client who wanted to accomplish a lot of things in her life, business-wise; but there was a real issue that showed up for her. People kept telling her about how confident she was and that she could do anything. Although she agreed with them, she also knew within herself that she lacked the kind of confidence that would push her pass her F.E.A.R. in order to move forward. I asked her what was her fear and she said her real fear was that she was inadequate.


I know I've felt that way at one time in my life. Perhaps, we all have. Many of us have questioned ourselves and our own capabilities especially when we compare ourselves with others, which is what she had begun to do.

She said she begin to tell herself as she looked at the successes of others, "what I have to offer doesn't even begin to add up to all the great work that others already have out there."

Her F.E.A.R. would not allow her to see that she has what it takes to add her different type of "amazing" to the world. Perhaps, it all boils down to the question of whether or not her "amazing" was good enough.

Have you ever felt like that? That everybody is doing it in a bigger, better, and a more grandeur way than what you ever could do. And now you wonder, what could you really contribute to that particular area or sphere of influence?

This client later stated that she feared that she would never know the magnitude of her own power because she is stuck in her present potential.

She said she fears that she would never achieve the greatness that others have told her that is in her or that she is destine for.

This F.E.A.R. was causing her to live in a stuck existence.

Is this you? Are you feeling like you are in a "stuck existence" due to F.E.A.R.?

So where is the F.E.A.R. showing up in your life? The FALSE EVIDENCE that is APPEARING REAL. When I think about F.E.A.R., it is an assault on your mind. It is a terriorist attack against our minds that causes us to think on or meditate on things that might happen which often never do. However, we can F.E.A.R. something so much that we can cause it to manifest into our lives like the scripture in the book of Job 3:25-26. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy, but that is a whole other blog post!

Nevertheless, these assaults on our minds are intentional violations to bring harm to areas of our lives. It's purpose is to keep us stuck and paralyzed and held in a "freeze frame" position that holds us back from being who we are suppose to be. The assaults of F.E.A.R. are literally trespassing on territory that legally belongs to us.

Here are three ways to combat the attack against F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real). These tips and tools I believe can help you to break free of what's holding you back once and for all!

1. Ask what is "FALSE" in your life right now?

Maybe, it is a "false belief" that whispers to you that you will never have the kind of business that you want to have, you will never write a best selling book, you will never have a baby, you will never have the kind of marriage that you want, you'll never lose weight, you'll never be able to travel, you'll never get out of debt, you'll never get promoted, or get married, or be healed.

Whatever the F.E.A.R. is, remember that it's just FAKE NEWS from the enemy!

These are all lies and none of these things are true or permanent. Combat the lies with the truth of what you can have and what you can do! Tell yourself the TRUTH! Know what is possible for yourself. Speak this truth over yourself and OUT LOUD! Back it up with arsenal which is Truth. The truth that will equip you to do battle against the thing that is terrorizing your life and that is holding you hostage by telling you that this will NEVER BE.

2. Look for the EVIDENCE?

Investigate your F.E.A.R. to determine the reality of them. In other words, what is your F.E.A.R. really based on? In my own life, I've discovered that most of my fears are not based on anything real. Sure, real stuff is happening, but how true is it that the thing that I am fearing will actually happen to me. If there is no proof or evidence regarding the thing that we are afraid of, then it is all made up in our minds and we must then decide how to fight to be free from it. Many times our fears are based on something that has not happened and will not happen.

Sometimes we might feel so strongly about something that it causes us to believe that it must be true, therefore it is our reality. But the fact is, this is not our reality. All of this is False Evidence Appearing Real. Sometimes, we believe that since we have not achieved a particular thing, it will never happen for us. These fears are based on uncertainties or the unknown.

Whatever you are experiencing right now does not have to stay a forever thing. Believe that your experience can and will change. Our situations did not come to stay, but it came to pass. Know that it is temporary, regardless of how permanent it may feel. It is just a matter of time that things will turn around.

I believe that we have all felt at one time or another in our lives that whatever we were going through that we would never come out of it. But when we begin to think differently, make different decisions and choices, then we came to believe and know that it is possible to change our circumstances and get different results. So, stop thinking that it is impossible and tell yourself that it is possible.

3. Create and Implement a Power Strategy that works.

Strategies work if you work them! Planning to win goes a long way when you are purposing to become all that you know that you are to be. These strategies will help jump start you to getting there.

A) First, make a list for your F.E.A.R and determine the reality of the F.E.A.R.

B) Next list the proof behind them if there are any and then write one way that you can do the opposite of what you have listed.

C) Lastly pick one or two goals that you can do to reverse what you have been experiencing all year from the thing that has been holding you back.

Finally, believe that there is so much more on the other side of this F.E.A.R. for you, if you are willing to do the work and to embrace the life that belongs to you. There is so much potential for you to maximize and to leverage is awaiting you so that you can launch into the life that you were meant to be living.

If you need a coach, email me at and let's overcome the F.E.A.R. that has been holding you back from being all that you were purposed to be, do, and have!

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